Women::

I have always hated getting compliments from people. It's always a brush off, or a compliment shot back at them instead to divert their focus.  I never know what to say or how to act. Lately I have been working on this and in doing so it has honestly made me love myself more then I ever have.  It has been a much needed change in myself. However, when I do say something as simple as, "Thank you," it seems that people look at me like I'm self absorbed.  Wait what?!?!  Why does that strike me weird you ask?... well........

All growing up I knew people and still know people that shake or brush of nice compliments with something like, "Oh no I'm not." Or "whatever, you are much more prettier than I am" kind of lame sauce stuff.  You have all said it I bet.  (Not that I don't think you shouldn't compliment others.) It's so interesting now though because I have been trying to just accept a compliment when it is offered my way and with women "accepting" compliments with such negativity towards themselves, I get looked at like I think I'm all that.  It's weird. and very sad.  I think it should change.

It almost seems at times that because for so long women in our culture have been accepting compliments this way that the person giving the compliment almost expects them to turn it around and have you say it about them instead and that is the whole reason they give the compliment and thats why I get weird looks when I say a simple, "Thank you." Make sense?

Make it stop. Please.

Women need to be and feel strong about who they are, what they are doing, and their passions and goals.  Don't dumb yourself down when people give you compliments about your looks, hobbies or family.  Take pride in what you do and love and accept your complement with humility and grace.  Honestly, a simple "Thank you" can really go a long way. Then, in turn, if you'd like to compliment them for something, the stage is already set for something to be said.

Reminder: Compliments should not be given with he expectation in getting one back.  Also remember to that giving compliments is something that can boost yourself just as much as getting one, if not more.

I promise.  It really is this simple. And I wish there were more of it being said.  It's needed. Beautiful women pass us each and every day who think they are ugly or hate their big nose, elf ears, or whatever else they come up with to pick on themselves for the day.  PLEASE STOP!

I love you.  People around you, LOVE YOU!  Life is to short, so just love.  Love yourself and the people that bring life and positivity into your life.  XOXO